by: Mary Segers

Even Moms Deserve Time for Themselves.

Yes, I said Moms deserve time for themselves.

Moms deserve time for themselves
Moms deserve time for themselves

I know, I know it… it seems so counter intuitive to our goal of getting things done.

We feel downright guilty if we even THINK moms deserve time away from the house and family… if we spend out time doing anything other than cooking, cleaning, and laundry.

Read this Shine article titled Not guilty: Reasons for moms to spend time alone

Everything she says in that article is so true and I’m here to tell you it is not only do moms deserve time for themselves but that the time invested in themselves will pay off in the long run in not only a better mood but a better all-around attitude which will translate to a happier family.

If you’re a brand new Mommy and this is all Greek to you then check out this article titled Motherhood: Retaining Your Sense of Self

Too often we get into the work, work, and work some more mentality that we don’t stop and consider what advice we’d give to our family and friends.

For instance, say your best friend has really been putting in a lot of hours at work and when she goes home she feels the pressure to cook dinner, help the kids with homework, and do an admittedly minimum amount of housecleaning. She works until it’s time to literally fall into bed.

There’s no time for herself or her spouse.

Day after day, week after week, and month after month, this will lead to:

  • Unspoken resentment
  • Anxiety and
  • Physical symptoms of the above

This is totally preventable by taking some regular time away.

Listen, you don’t want to be that Mom that’s so wrapped up in your kids that you neglect yourself and so eventually you end up being only a shell of a mom who happens to be the “Sports Mom.”

I’m not knocking that… I’ve mentioned in several of my writings that with 4 kids I’ve been a Mom of ALLLLL sports: t-ball, hockey, soccer, football, cheer leading, weight lifting, tennis, swimming, and a few I probably forgot. And that’s in addition to non-sports things like drama and band.

I’ve been that all-around Mom.

That’s how I KNOW that not only do you HAVE to find time for yourself, but that you CAN, too.

So… how do you manage to do this?

Well, you could–and should–plan time for yourself into each and every week.

There are 168 hours and you should be able to snag at least a couple for yourself. You can do that by saving time on cooking, cleaning, and laundry.

A good… FREE… resource you can check out my “Home Time Management and Alone Time” series.

So… do you feel that Moms deserve time for themselves? What do you do about it? Do you feel guilty or accept it as normal?

Go back to the “Home Time Management and Alone Time” series.

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