Oh, Life Can Be Tough
For a 6 year old who can’t wear the ultra-cool looking shoes that all his friends can wear.
You know the ones…they light up and have the absolute coolest designs on them.
Life would be so perfect…or at least a whole lot better…if you could just wear those cool shoes.
Why did he have to patiently explain this to his Mom…who should know all this stuff?
Who’s 6 years old, in Kindergarten, suffers from asthma, has very flat fat feet, and is my second born grandson.
Shopping for shoes became an absolute headache for his Mom.
I mean, he didn’t think he was doing anything wrong. He just wanted the cool shoes…not the ugly ones. Mom would show him this pair or that one but his little heart was set on the light up ones that he just knew would make him fly around the playground.
Any other pair hurt his feet but the cool shoes…even if they were two sizes too small…well, they felt ok.
Then, in a couple of weeks Mom would be back buying him new shoes because he was crying that those hurt his feet.
Since Mom was a single parent of two and also a nontraditional student she really didn’t have the time, patience, money, or inclination to continue shoe shopping for Jeremiah just because he HAD to have a certain pair of shoes and even lied in order to get them.
She was at the end of her rope.
It’s Ninny to the Rescue
Of Mom…not Jeremiah. Ninny (me) is more like a boot camp drill sergeant who doesn’t understand, or care about, what the other kids are wearing.
I’m no-nonsense, no fluff, and Jeremiah hasn’t quite figured out how to get around me yet. (Actually, there is no getting around me…I hate shopping with a passion and I’m on a seek and destroy mission. I want to get done!)
So Here’s What We Do…
Through trial and error, we’ve figured out the Sears has the best selection of wide shoes for kids. When I take him to look for shoes we only go to Sears and we only look at the wide shoes!
I show him what he has to choose from and he only chooses from them. There is no looking at or trying on shoes that I know aren’t going to fit him. Additionally, since he’s still learning to tie his shoes (and needs the practice) we only get lace-up shoes.
Generally, with those criteria, he’ll have probably 5 or 6 different pairs of shoes to choose from.
Then we talk about how he likes clean looking shoes. So he’ll voluntarily put back any that are even close to being white.
Finally, It’s Down to the Run Test
This is when he puts on each pair of shoes and runs really fast around the aisles until he comes up with the best 2 pair of shoes. Then he’ll put one from each pair on each foot to figure out the absolute best pair.
And that pair is being worn out of the store.
If You Noticed the Trick Was
To not give choices where there weren’t choices to be had. This is a top time management and parenting tip.
From start to finish it takes us half an hour to find, try on, narrow down, make the final selection, and pay for the shoes.
Then we go eat pizza.